To write a book????

I want to write a book that inspires while making people laugh.  My fiance just deployed and one of my friends said I had to read the book “Confessions of a Military Wife” by Mollie Gross.  Now I am only part of the way through the book but I am in LOVE!!! I can completely relate to the author in some very creepy ways; not only because of having some similar experiences but also we fell in love with our Marine for the same reasons.  So of course, immediately I am comfortable and interested in reading about what she has to say, because I want to know what I have to look forward to!  The best part of this book is that she makes everything so funny and the same things that she finds funny are the same things I giggle about, which make them hysterical!!!

So I guess in order to write a book that will inspire along with making people laugh, I need to make a book that will inspire me and make me laugh.  Now, what to write about????  I can’t do the military thing because I barely understand it myself, in fact I call myself a military illiterate!  Maybe I can write a book about trying to survive ……..  Well I guess you’ll have to wait and find out what I survive!!!  And hey if I don’t then maybe it can be a book about how not to survive!!  Wish me luck!!

I date a United States Marine!

Ok so.  I date a United States Marine!  I love him with all of my heart.  We have been in a long distance relationship for a year and a half now.  The other day I ran into an old friend and she wanted to know if I was dating anyone and so I told her about my boyfriend.  Her response was “oh my god why would you put yourself through that.”  It got me a little steamed up because I hear that or similar responses (for example, “well you must not really like your boyfriend if you don’t mind spending all that time apart”, “I could never be in a long distance relationship, do you think that he cheats on you?”)

First of all, I am in a long distance relationship because I love the man that I am with.  When people say I can imagine what it must be like, I’m sorry to say but no you can’t.  If you can imagine your heart not in your body but all the way across the country and you aren’t complete until you are near it, then you can understand a fraction of what it is like to in a long distance relationship.  Him being in the military only makes the relationship that much harder.  He can’t come and see you whenever he wants and he doesn’t get to decide where he is going to live. He has to ask for permission to come see you and it has to be approved (which they usually wait until the day before to approve) and he has to go where ever they tell him to.

Second of all, I love that man and while being apart from him kills me, the times that I do get to spend with him are some of the best times of my life.  I would give up the 2 months we have to be apart, if it meant that I got to spend 10 mins in his arms.  And it kills me when I hear someone compare the week that they had to spend apart from their boyfriend or husband as a way to try to relate to me.  I guarantee it is nowhere near the same thing.  Try spending 2 months, 4 months, 8 months, a year without getting to see the person you love.  In fact our love is stronger than most because we don’t see each other daily, we have to make the time to talk and share and be with each other.  We text, we call, we write, we Skype; we probably spend twice as much time making our relationship work than other couples.

Third of all, I have all the faith in my man and I never have to question his faithfulness to me.  So don’t ask, because if you are asking you’re probably doing so to purposely cause me stress.  And I have enough in my life right now!  Thank you!  I am and he is Semper Fidelis  – Always Faithful.

I love my Man!!  And I am proud that he is a Marine. It makes our relationship a little bit more difficult but in the end, the moments we do get to share are more precious.

Idiots Guide to Proposals!

Ok so this weekend I was out with my boyfriend’s friends and one of them is about to ask his girlfriend to marry him.  He was planning on asking at Christmas time in front of a lot of people, but apparently his girl friend happened to mention how cheesy that was.  Now he has no idea what to do and he asked me what I thought.  I am sure that there are a lot of guys out there that are about to ask there wonderful girlfriends to marry them and don’t know how to do it.  I hope that this will help you out.

Christmas and New Years are probably the cheesy way to ask a girl to marry you.  It’s uninventive, typical and not very romantic.  This is the person that we are hopefully going to spend the rest of our lives with.  The proposal will tell us how much effort you are planning on putting into the future relationship.  I’m not saying that it has to be large and extravagant, but it definitely should be memorable.  If you can remember a particularly romantic moment in your relationship and recreate it says that you remember the important things by remembering the little things too.  It says that you are creative and romantic and will be throughout the rest of your lives.

I like most girls are only planning on getting married ones and I know that I want to remember this one proposal for a lifetime.  I remember the weekend that my boyfriend first told me he loved me.  We were at the beach for the weekend, in the exact same room that we had the first time we came to the beach and we were standing out on the balcony when he told me he loved me.  Recreating that would be a memorable scene.  That same weekend one of those mornings we were out on the balcony and at the next hotel over someone had gotten up early and written Shelly will you marry me in the sand below I’m sure their room.  I would find that very romantic

Creating a memorable proposal doesn’t have to cost a lot of money.  Pick a favorite place that you both like to visit, recreate your very first date, or take her on a walk down memory lane.  If Christmas is a favorite moment in your relationship then yes it is acceptable to propose at Christmas.  It doesn’t have to be a long speech but it shouldn’t be too short either.  I want to know why you want to marry me.  I may already know that I want to do it, but I still want to know why you want to too.

Don’t by any means be offended by my blog about proposing, I am not engaged nor married currently, I am not a professional or an expert on proposals.  However, I am a girl that like many other girls thinks about the way that she would like to be proposed to.  You don’t have to take any of what I say to heart if you don’t want to.  It takes a lot of courage to ask someone to marry you and I respect that.  I know that like most things if there is something that I can’t get an idea for I search for it on the internet and maybe this will help a few guys get one girls perspective on proposals.