Idiots Guide to Proposals!

Ok so this weekend I was out with my boyfriend’s friends and one of them is about to ask his girlfriend to marry him.  He was planning on asking at Christmas time in front of a lot of people, but apparently his girl friend happened to mention how cheesy that was.  Now he has no idea what to do and he asked me what I thought.  I am sure that there are a lot of guys out there that are about to ask there wonderful girlfriends to marry them and don’t know how to do it.  I hope that this will help you out.

Christmas and New Years are probably the cheesy way to ask a girl to marry you.  It’s uninventive, typical and not very romantic.  This is the person that we are hopefully going to spend the rest of our lives with.  The proposal will tell us how much effort you are planning on putting into the future relationship.  I’m not saying that it has to be large and extravagant, but it definitely should be memorable.  If you can remember a particularly romantic moment in your relationship and recreate it says that you remember the important things by remembering the little things too.  It says that you are creative and romantic and will be throughout the rest of your lives.

I like most girls are only planning on getting married ones and I know that I want to remember this one proposal for a lifetime.  I remember the weekend that my boyfriend first told me he loved me.  We were at the beach for the weekend, in the exact same room that we had the first time we came to the beach and we were standing out on the balcony when he told me he loved me.  Recreating that would be a memorable scene.  That same weekend one of those mornings we were out on the balcony and at the next hotel over someone had gotten up early and written Shelly will you marry me in the sand below I’m sure their room.  I would find that very romantic

Creating a memorable proposal doesn’t have to cost a lot of money.  Pick a favorite place that you both like to visit, recreate your very first date, or take her on a walk down memory lane.  If Christmas is a favorite moment in your relationship then yes it is acceptable to propose at Christmas.  It doesn’t have to be a long speech but it shouldn’t be too short either.  I want to know why you want to marry me.  I may already know that I want to do it, but I still want to know why you want to too.

Don’t by any means be offended by my blog about proposing, I am not engaged nor married currently, I am not a professional or an expert on proposals.  However, I am a girl that like many other girls thinks about the way that she would like to be proposed to.  You don’t have to take any of what I say to heart if you don’t want to.  It takes a lot of courage to ask someone to marry you and I respect that.  I know that like most things if there is something that I can’t get an idea for I search for it on the internet and maybe this will help a few guys get one girls perspective on proposals.

Looking Back at a Year Gone by!

So it is 10 mins before Christmas Eve Eve and I just can’t go to sleep.  Today I came home to my parent’s house and I’ll be staying here until after the New Year.  During these last couple of hours when I should be sleeping because I know that my mom will want to go shopping again tomorrow.  I can’t help but think about all the things that have changed in my life in the past few years and the upcoming changes that are going to be affecting my life in the years to come.

In the past few years it feels like I have been stuck in a rut, basically in the same place with nowhere to go.  But for some reason with the current semester finally over and one more to go before graduation I feel like I am finally getting out of that rut.  I really can’t believe how much has truly changed this year.  My mom diagnosed with ovarian cancer, going through multiple surgeries and chemo, not to mention all of the emotion rollercoasters that went along with that.  Being the medical reference in the family I had a lot of questions that I had to answer and many that I didn’t know the answers to.  So far all scanners are clear so I am keeping positive on that.  My dad, I have been the most worried about because while everything was going on with my mom, he was the only one at home to deal with it. And I don’t think that anyone ever asked him how he was feeling about all of it.  But he held together like the man he is and got my mom threw it.

In the past few months my oldest sister go married, MARRIED can you believe it.  It just seems so weird because for as long as I can remember it has been the three of us.  Don’t get me wrong I love Jonathon and couldn’t ask for a better brother-in-law, but I just keep forgetting how truly grown up we are!  Soon but not too soon there will be kids back in the household and honestly I can’t wait for that!!  Because then I can spoil and play with them and then give them back to their mom and dad!

My other sister, middle one, seems to be growing up too!  She is doing really great with her boyfriend and I wouldn’t be surprised if there was another wedding on the way in the next few years.  Her company that she works for is booming and gaining lots of interest!  I love being able to say that my sister designed that and show them her signature on the inside.  We have not always had the best relationship but in the past year we are finally getting along like I have always hoped we would.  I am so very proud of her and everything that she does!

I have finally made it to my last and final semester as a nursing student.  I have met a wonderful man, I couldn’t ask for a better guy.  He keeps me sane when I want to go crazy, calm when I am so very angry, and he rubs my feet without asking for a foot rub in return! (Mom says that’s a sign of a keeper).  Along with all of that I have made great strides toward volunteering with Sexual Trauma, I never thought it would be something that I was interested in helping with but I am good at it and I help people so I’ll keep doing it.

My friends have had a bumpy ride as well.  My best friend, Kayleigh had a wedding renewal with her husband.  She has been balancing newly wedded life, school and work throughout this year.  I know they’ve had a bumpy ride but I know they are on the right track and will make it through.  My friend, Caroline has graduated and passed the NCLEX!!!!  Along with struggling to find that perfect balance in her life, no matter what road she decides to take I will still be there to support her.  My Friend, Garren has been trying to find herself throughout the past year.  She moved back home and gave up on a failing relationship, it was the best and I know that she will survive and find herself.  I can think of so many more friends that have grown and changed throughout this year, I can’t wait to see how this next year turns out.

The scariest part of this reflection is the things yet to come; Graduation, NCLEX, job hunting and moving.  I will be taking a very big step in my life and while everyone around me says that I shouldn’t, I know in my heart that this is the right thing to do and that if I don’t at least try then I will always wonder what could’ve been.  I don’t want to be sitting here next year this time reflecting on the year gone by and wonder if it could’ve been different.  I have taken advantage of every opportunity that has come my way and I don’t intend to stop now!  Look out 2010, Here I come!!! Happy Holidays everyone! I hope that you take the time to reflect on the year gone by!!  Comments are welcome!!!!

The Bad Side to Romance Novels

I know that I haven’t posted anything recently but that is all because I have been trying to make it through this semester in school.  I am almost done 2 more exams and then I have one more semster before graduation!  Woo Hoo!!  Even with all that going on I have still found the time to read a few books.  I found this series written by an author that I have read before.  Her other books were great so I had no reason to bought that these wouldn’t be good too.  But WOW!  This book was not a romance novel it was a sex book.  In every chapter there was sex and once you to got to the end there was still more sex.  I know that I like romance novels but there still needs to be a story there.  Not just two people meet and then there is sex going on.  I skipped reading half the book because I was just trying to find the story in the book.  If I could I’d like to get my money back.  Anyone can write a steamy sex scene but it takes an author to write a romance novel.  There has to be a memorable meeting and a building attraction to one another, there should be a fight for affections.  That’s what makes a good romance.

I like mine to have a murder mystery vibe to them too.  Rachel Gibson wrote a great short series which was about 4 authors that were friends and each book goes into one of their lives.  The best part is that each book is written in the style of that particular author, a True Crime, Murder Mystery, Romance and Science Fiction.  These are great books! At least in my opinion.  That is the beauty of reading though, what I like others might not.

However if there is no story to follow then you might as well just call the book porn.  It’s books like that, that give Romance Novels a bad name.  That is what most people already think about Romance Novels, so books like that are just perpetuating the cycle.  Come on authors do you really think that is a good book?  Having read other stories that are soo much better than this book to me it just seems like laziness on the authors part. I need a book with more substance than just sex.  Books like this are the bad side to Romance Novels.

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