Ok so. I date a United States Marine! I love him with all of my heart. We have been in a long distance relationship for a year and a half now. The other day I ran into an old friend and she wanted to know if I was dating anyone and so I told her about my boyfriend. Her response was “oh my god why would you put yourself through that.” It got me a little steamed up because I hear that or similar responses (for example, “well you must not really like your boyfriend if you don’t mind spending all that time apart”, “I could never be in a long distance relationship, do you think that he cheats on you?”)
First of all, I am in a long distance relationship because I love the man that I am with. When people say I can imagine what it must be like, I’m sorry to say but no you can’t. If you can imagine your heart not in your body but all the way across the country and you aren’t complete until you are near it, then you can understand a fraction of what it is like to in a long distance relationship. Him being in the military only makes the relationship that much harder. He can’t come and see you whenever he wants and he doesn’t get to decide where he is going to live. He has to ask for permission to come see you and it has to be approved (which they usually wait until the day before to approve) and he has to go where ever they tell him to.
Second of all, I love that man and while being apart from him kills me, the times that I do get to spend with him are some of the best times of my life. I would give up the 2 months we have to be apart, if it meant that I got to spend 10 mins in his arms. And it kills me when I hear someone compare the week that they had to spend apart from their boyfriend or husband as a way to try to relate to me. I guarantee it is nowhere near the same thing. Try spending 2 months, 4 months, 8 months, a year without getting to see the person you love. In fact our love is stronger than most because we don’t see each other daily, we have to make the time to talk and share and be with each other. We text, we call, we write, we Skype; we probably spend twice as much time making our relationship work than other couples.
Third of all, I have all the faith in my man and I never have to question his faithfulness to me. So don’t ask, because if you are asking you’re probably doing so to purposely cause me stress. And I have enough in my life right now! Thank you! I am and he is Semper Fidelis – Always Faithful.
I love my Man!! And I am proud that he is a Marine. It makes our relationship a little bit more difficult but in the end, the moments we do get to share are more precious.